Saturday, September 28, 2013

Chapter 3 (Part III): How Men and Women Found Peace

Men and Women will only be able to live together in peace if they are able to respect their differences.


Men learned to respect that Women needed to talk to feel better even if they do not have much to say because by listening, they could be very supportive.

Men realised that even when they felt they were being attacked, blamed or criticised by the Women, they knew it was only temporary. Soon the Women would suddenly feel better and be very appreciative and accepting.

Each Man finally understood that a Woman’s need to talk about her problems was not because he was failing her in some way. He learned that once a Woman feels heard, she stops dwelling on her problems and becomes very positive.

With such awareness, a Man will be able to listen without feeling responsible for solving all her problems. Also, as a man gets good at listening, he realises that listening can be an excellent way to forget the problems of his day as well as bring a lot of fulfillment to his partner.


Women learned to respect that Men needed to withdraw to cope with stress. The cave is no longer a great mystery or cause for alarm.

They learned to be more accepting of him at these times because he was experiencing a lot of stress.

They are not offended when Men are easily distracted. When a Woman talked and her Man became distracted, she would very politely stop talking, stand there and wait for him to notice. Then she would begin talking again. She understood that sometimes it was hard for him to give his full attention. They discovered that by asking for the Men’s attention in a relaxed and accepting manner, Men are happy to redirect their attention.

However, when Men were completely preoccupied and in their caves, Women also will not take it personally. They know that it is not the time to have intimate conversations but a time to talk about problems with their own friends or have fun and go shopping. When Men thereby felt loved and accepted, Women will discover that Men would come out of their caves quicker.

To know how men cope with stress, check out the post here.

To know how women cope with stress, check out the post here.


Extracted from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Monday, September 16, 2013

Do Not Talk Bad About Your Boyfriend Or Husband To Anyone Ever!

If you asked me what is the one thing I learnt the most from my previous relationship, I would say..

‘Don’t talk bad about your boyfriend/husband to anyone ever’

My older brother told me this YEARS ago.

He said the relationship he has with his girlfriend can maintain up until now is because they always talk good things about each other in front of their own respective friends.

We may be venting but our friends or others do not forgive and forget the things you say about your boyfriend or husband.


They do not love him like you do.

Generally the only way people know your boyfriend or husband is through you.

Build him up.



Sunday, September 8, 2013

Life, A Bitch And An Angel!

I have to admit that ‘life’ is a bitch but at the same time, it is an angel.

It has its weird ways of doing its own things and at its own pace.

If you learn to adore it, it will bless you with rewards. Piss it off and it will screw you nevertheless.

What I want to emphasise here is that, whatever comes to you, regardless an opportunity or a challenge, take it or face it respectively.

Bad things do happen in our lives. It is normal. However, it will not be permanent. It will pass. It is not wrong to be a muppet. You can grieve and be weak for as long as you want – do it at your own comfortable pace. Take your time. Nonetheless, you must promise yourself that you will move on.

Always remember that, if it does not end the way you want it to be, it is not the end yet. Therefore, keep going. Keep fighting. The destination is not the main point. The journey is.

Personally I had been through the highest as well as the lowest moments in my life and I know they will not stop knocking on my door. Yet, do keep in mind that happiness and sadness do not come together. They are practically enemies. When one leaves, only there is enough space for the other to come.

Hence, if you do not open the door for sadness to leave, how will happiness come in?

At any rate, these are just my personal views about life through my own little bit and pieces of my experience.


Sunday, September 1, 2013

Butterflies In My Stomach!

When I wanted to text you...

When I saw your text...

When I wanted to call you...

When I received your call...

When I am ready to go out to see you...

When I am about to see you...

When I see you...

When I think about the time we spent together...

When I think about you...

...there are always butterflies in my stomach!



When I did not get your reply...

And you never called...

And I did not get to see you...

And I knew, all along, you do not reciprocate the feelings I have for you...

...there are always heartbreaks.