Thursday, June 14, 2012

Chapter 2 (Part II): Women, Give Up Giving Advice!

1256065904_top-10-cruel-things-women-do-to-men_5The most common mistake women make in relationships:

A woman tries to change a man’s behaviour when he makes mistakes by becoming the home-improvements committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism.

Therefore, this leads to the most frequently expressed complaint men have about women is that women are always trying to change them.

When a woman loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. She forms a home-improvement committee and he becomes her primary focus.

No matter how much he resists her help, she persists – waiting for any opportunity to help him or tell him what to do. She thinks she’s nurturing him while he feels he’s being controlled.

Instead, he wants her acceptance.

When a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to “help” a man, she has no idea of how critical and unloving she may sound to him.

Even though her intent is loving, her suggestions do offend and hurt.

For many men, it is very important to prove that they can get to their goal. men pride themselves on being experts, especially when it comes to fixing mechanical things, getting places or solving problems. These are the times when he needs her loving acceptance the most and not her advice or criticism.

Try challenging yourself to practise restraining from giving any unsolicited advice or criticism.

The men in your life not only will appreciate it but also will be more attentive and responsive to you.


Extracted from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus


Ken Wooi said...

But sometimes, women's advice are somewhat loving and caring :) but don't start nagging lah :P

Fumoffu said...

Ken you seem so free. I have no time to read other blogs like last time anymore.. T_T

But thanks for continue to support me :)