Friday, February 25, 2011

Relationship Resolutions


I was watching this short clip on how each couple, be it husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend, could work on their relationship even though they have been together for years: making relationship resolutions. I have many friends who were already married as well as getting married. Therefore, I would love to dedicate this post to them, hoping they will have a happy and healthy relationship with their partners.

Making a resolution with your partner helps the relationship. Couples need intimacy to keep their relationship going. However, they need to make time for it but, there are so many threats to our time for example, technology. At the end of the day, when going to bed, they would say they are too tired to be intimate.

This is a big no-no.

Having a great sex life is not just about being in the bedroom as well as what happens out of the room. It is about looking at your overall relationship and making an overall resolution to be more intimate, to have more positive communication and to really improve and rejuvenate  your relationship.

There are a few keys to have a great relationship.


1. Positive interactions towards each other

The main difference between couples who succeed and couples who failed is that couples who succeed express more positive interactions per day towards each other. ‘Did you wash the dishes?’ ‘Did you pay the bills?’ Those are negative interactions. Every negative interaction you have with your partner needs five positive interactions to counteract. Now that is a hell lot of it.

Make more positive interactions with each other as a resolution. It does not have to be a one-year resolution. A week or two of it would eventually turns this into our daily lives’ habits. Having more positive interactions towards each other as part of our lives would then help our relationships thrive.


2. Choreplay

Women are working on two jobs; going to work and then coming home taking care of the household, taking care of the kids. The main thing they need to enjoy their relationship with their partners and to feel better about their partners is their partners giving a hand to them at home.

A lot of men would always wonder why they are not having as much sex as they like to be. One advice, go from foreplay to choreplay. Get into that kitchen and starts washing those dishes which will create more time for each other.

Balancing out the chores will eventually lessen the stress and then equals to more sex.


3. Turn off electronics

We are all addicted to technology especially couples. They are spending more time Facebook-ing with friends from the second grade than Facetime-ing with their partners. That’s the reason why at the end of the day, they have no time for each other. Take one third of the time you spent on emails, the time you spent on Facebook, the time you spent on texts, the time you spent on your favourite sites and different blogs, to spend it with your partners.

Technology really plays into the center of our brains and we instantly get used to it. If your Blackberry or iPhone beeps, you are giving that more attention than you give to the persons who you took the vow to share your life with.

Turn off electronics, turn off cell phones, turn off TV, get off Facebook and get intimate with your partner.

It is advised that all couples are to aim for at least once a week intimacy regardless intercourse or sexual intimacy. The minimum of once a week is enough time and keeps you connected and keeps you interested in sex and keeps your relationship rejuvenated. From the health perspective regardless male sexual health or female sexual health, studies show that couples that have sex more regularly are more healthy. They have healthier life, they do better at work, they have stronger immunity system and what not.

All reasons to make a resolution with your partner makes this year a sexy relationship. Therefore, I wish all my friends out there who were already married or getting married would give this a try to have a happier and healthier relationship.

Source: ABC News

If you are interested to watch the clip, click here. However, it is the same thing as what I had posted here. I literally re-watched it over and over again to get the messages right.

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