The Unexpected Surprise

Notification from foursquare: Tiger L. @ Sempurna Residence

“I am now at Jalan Duta. How should I get to your place?”

“I saw PWTC”

“I am driving along Jalan Kuching”

I did not believe him at all. I thought he was playing a prank on me. How would someone, who just finished working late at night, would drive three hours and twenty minutes down to Kuala Lumpur?

My boyfie.

I did not know what to say. Karma is the only thing I could think of. I did that to him a few months back too but it was indeed a good Karma.

That morning, I was telling him that there would be a ‘supermoon’ and how awesome it would be if I could view it with him. That triggered him to drive down to Kuala Lumpur. No wonder he had been asking me if I am going out that night.

Thank you for coming to see me. I really miss you loads.

The House Reunion

There were eight of us in the house and we had been living under one roof for at least one year together. Sooner or later, each of us started to drift away; either moving out or to pursue studies further. After at least three years apart, finally I see them again; though some of them remain missing. It was really a nice reunion even though it was just a few of us. We could have hang out longer if it was not for time constraint. Still, I believe we will all come together again, on their wedding, perhaps?

Bewildered

Looking back at older posts does get me thinking if I am currently doing any better or worse.

Am I still hiding somewhere in a corner? Or am I still finding my way out? Or probably, I am already out of the cell but not wanting to face it?

There are things that I had never done and I did it. There are things that I had never said and I said it.

I am scared of who I am becoming – like I do not know who I am anymore. Not knowing what I like and what I do not.

I am scared of what I am getting myself into – like I do not know which direction I am heading to. Not knowing what makes me happy and what does not.

I think I just need to hang in there and put myself out of this unnecessary misery.

Stages of a Relationship

In every romantic relationship, no doubt a couple will have to go through a number of phases before being strong enough to get into marriage. Honeymoon phase will not go on forever so, face it – when two people spent a considerable time with each other, the reality dawns upon them and this is when they have to become practical and work together to sort things out. Either they remain together forever if they manage to make things work out or they break up.

Initial Stage: Romance

This stage is when two individuals have just come together. You love everything about your partner and he or she seems to be the perfect person in the world. The whole world revolves around him or her and that you hardly have time for anyone else be it your best friend, friends or family. At this point of time, your partner seems important. When the effects of this stage seem to wear off, you know you have shifted to the next stage.

Eye-opener Stage: Reality

As time passes by, you realise that your partner is not so perfect after all. The negative aspects of his or her personality eventually start surfacing slowly and gradually. Both individuals start behaving more like themselves. In this stage, you do not like to spend the entire time with your partner. In fact, you feel the need for space and freedom. You concentrate more on correcting the bad habits of your partner – constant nagging. This is the most crucial phase of a relationship which can either lead to a strong and mature relationship or a break up.

Stability Stage: Maturity

In this stage, both the partners understand that their partner is a normal individual. A person with positive as well as negative aspects. The idea of perfection slowly dissolve and acceptance starts gaining around. Both the partners start thinking practically and learn that adjustment is the key to a successful relationship. Nevertheless, the transition is not so easy and the slightest slip can make them go back to the second stage.

Commitment Stage: Totally Practical

If the maturity stage is able to be maintained for a considerable time without slipping to the previous stage, commitment is the most obvious result. By this time, they have totally accepted each other, without any efforts at bringing about any change in each other. You realise that partners complement each other and not complete each other. Minor tiffs are common. In fact, they are necessary for keeping the spice in the relationship alive. However, the ‘we break off’, ‘you don’t care for me’, etc. phrases do not form a part of the relationship. This is the time when you love your partner for who he or she actually is and not for what you think he or she is.

Marriage Stage: Romance once again..

All successful relationships end in marriage. The partners have gone through all the ups and downs and no longer live in the world of fairytale romance. They know that life is not picture-perfect and they find love in each other’s company. Marriage brings about the honeymoon phase; when all the romance of the first stage comes back once again – the only difference is that this time the partners are mature. Though there might be slight problems because of the added responsibilities and living together, none of this will be too big to handle. It is the time to enjoy the results of the efforts that both of you have taken to bring the relationship to this stage.

Nevertheless, every married couple feels that, after the initial whirlwind years of carefree romance, the fire seems to fade away as they grow old together. Both of them fear a loss of value in each other’s life, fear the fact that their own beauty and sex appeal is fading and before we know it, many marriages spiral out of control and the spouses are waiting for each of them to make the first move out of the door, never to come back again.

In my next post, I will share some tips to keep the spark alive in your relationship.

Source: iloveindia.com

Abstain from Facebook

It was Ash Wednesday few days ago which marked the season of Lent. Lent is a 40-day period of preparation for Easter Sunday which will fall on April 24th. This season marked by prayer, fasting and abstinence and almsgiving.

When we, Catholics, talk about fasting, we normally mean restricting the food that we eat which is primarily a spiritual discipline designed to tame the body so that we can concentrate on higher things.

Fasting and abstinence are closely related but, there are some differences in these spiritual practices. When Catholics talk about fasting, we normally mean restricting the quantity of food that we eat. Abstinence refers to the avoidance of particular foods. The most common form of abstinence is the avoidance of meat, a spiritual practice that goes back to the earliest days of the Church.

I had been practicing Friday abstinence in the past but, it gradually worn off ever since I was an undergraduate. As for this year, I want to do something different. I had never done this before but for my own spiritual discipline, I would like to abstain from doing different things each week.

As a start, I will abstain myself from Facebook for a week.

Relationships Are Meant to Heal Wounds of Human Mind

This is a beautiful article.

It greatly reminds me of him who loves me and ready to help and heal me, gives me all the support and understanding I need. In contrast, I was not willing to receive it because I was not ready to reveal my wounds and shortcomings.

When people get into a relationship with someone they truly care and love, the darkness will come up. We feel guilty at times after we revealed our wounds to our loved ones and therefore, not able to face them anymore.

It does take a lot of effort and courage to reveal our wounds to our loved ones. It is a risky bet to start with.

And I took the risk.

And I am glad that I did.

He smiles and looks the same way at me even after facing my dark sides. That is when I know I found a safe place where I can truly be myself and feel loved even after I showed my wounds.

Thank you.

The Many Faces of Point One Bu

First try when most of us were not into it or were not aware of the fun of it.

And when they finally knew how this application works, we finally get into work. This was our first-with-effort shot. It did not turn up well but we learnt from our mistakes and took the second shot, which I accidentally forgot to save it. How reckless.

And therefore, we spent another thirty to sixty minutes to do our third shot and this time, the turn out was great though not perfect. The guys put a lot of effort behind these shots though.

And our very last shot before we left was below, the many faces of us.

To be honest, I am blessed to have these people in my life. Though we are all apart, I believe our many years of friendship will definitely keep us all together.