Have You Ever

Have you ever been with a guy who controlled and checked on you all the time but ended up cheated on you, asked for your forgiveness and to give him a second chance?

Have you ever been with a guy who does not take you as his girlfriend and told you to give him more time but told the public that you two are the items?

Have you ever been with a guy who says he likes you a lot but still loses his temper on you, shouted at you?

Ditch them.

Yes, leave.

A guy who feels so insecure is not a man at all. If he has no confidence in himself, it is not your responsibility to make him feel secured. Plus, if he constantly controls and checks on you, he is a person who cannot be trusted. Yes, you may think these are sweet, that he is just being protective of you, afraid to lose you – puh-lease, wake up! This is not a fantasy. A man should know how to be responsible for themselves. IF you are being together with a man, you should not have any burden at all – to make him feel secured, to make him feel confident about himself. Those are not your responsibility – I repeat – not your responsibility – at all.

A guy who cannot decide whether he wants to be with you is definitely not a man at all. A man should be decisive. He must know how to make a decision. What sort of “more time” does he need? C’mon, ladies, do you honestly want to be with a man who cannot make a decision? Okay, maybe it is fine that he needs time to think about it because a relationship is a long term thing but, if he is showing and telling the public that the two of you are the items, leave! That is definitely a guy who clearly does not want to be with you but does not want to lose your attention full stop

Now, I do come across with a few girl friends of mine who told me that if a guy scolded or shouted at you, it means he really loves you. Does he? A man is a person who knows how to control himself and does not lose his cool when he knew scolding and shouting is not going to fix anything. If he really loves you, he will not hurt you, including verbally.

Yes, I had been with guys classified above. I had been a fool and learned my lesson the hard way.

I know my post is not going to change your mind because I had been there. There were family and friends who told me of such toxic relationship and I chose to ignore. Until the unfortunate events happened.

So why am I sharing this when I knew none of you will listen to me?

Just so you can come back to my post again to laugh about it and move on if any of the above happened to you.

Or, since miracles do happen, probably you can come back and tell me that I was just being unlucky.