Have You Ever

Have you ever been with a guy who controlled and checked on you all the time but ended up cheated on you, asked for your forgiveness and to give him a second chance?

Have you ever been with a guy who does not take you as his girlfriend and told you to give him more time but told the public that you two are the items?

Have you ever been with a guy who says he likes you a lot but still loses his temper on you, shouted at you?

Ditch them.

Yes, leave.

A guy who feels so insecure is not a man at all. If he has no confidence in himself, it is not your responsibility to make him feel secured. Plus, if he constantly controls and checks on you, he is a person who cannot be trusted. Yes, you may think these are sweet, that he is just being protective of you, afraid to lose you – puh-lease, wake up! This is not a fantasy. A man should know how to be responsible for themselves. IF you are being together with a man, you should not have any burden at all – to make him feel secured, to make him feel confident about himself. Those are not your responsibility – I repeat – not your responsibility – at all.

A guy who cannot decide whether he wants to be with you is definitely not a man at all. A man should be decisive. He must know how to make a decision. What sort of “more time” does he need? C’mon, ladies, do you honestly want to be with a man who cannot make a decision? Okay, maybe it is fine that he needs time to think about it because a relationship is a long term thing but, if he is showing and telling the public that the two of you are the items, leave! That is definitely a guy who clearly does not want to be with you but does not want to lose your attention full stop

Now, I do come across with a few girl friends of mine who told me that if a guy scolded or shouted at you, it means he really loves you. Does he? A man is a person who knows how to control himself and does not lose his cool when he knew scolding and shouting is not going to fix anything. If he really loves you, he will not hurt you, including verbally.

Yes, I had been with guys classified above. I had been a fool and learned my lesson the hard way.

I know my post is not going to change your mind because I had been there. There were family and friends who told me of such toxic relationship and I chose to ignore. Until the unfortunate events happened.

So why am I sharing this when I knew none of you will listen to me?

Just so you can come back to my post again to laugh about it and move on if any of the above happened to you.

Or, since miracles do happen, probably you can come back and tell me that I was just being unlucky.

January 29th, 2017

..was the day he proposed to me.

I was playing with the cat in the living room when my older brother told me that Gurmeet was looking for me, asked me to go up to the room.

I ignored him.

Later, my younger brother came into the living room and took the cat away. He also told me that Gurmeet was looking for me, asked me to go up to the room. I got up reluctantly but decided to give him a call until I saw his phone on the table in the living room.

Frustrated, I stopped at the bottom of the staircase and shouted, “What do you want?”

“I lost my angpow money. Help me to look for it.” was his reply.

I walked up to the room. Reluctantly.

I took out all the thrown angpow in the rubbish bin and searched one by one, in case I really threw them away with the money inside.

No, no sight of the money.

Frustrated, I told him to forgo that few hundreds since he has more angpow money.

Repeatedly, he told me to search properly. I took out all the thrown angpows and shoved them to him to prove that there was no money inside.

This went on for a few minutes until he pointed out there was a box inside the rubbish bin.

I held it and looked at it, thinking when did I ever throw this away.

His turn to be frustrated and took out the ring from his pocket and knelt on one knee.

*his speech*

*his tears*

There was a moment of silence.

Yes, I am do want to be stuck with you for the rest of my life.

Apparently, all my family members knew about his plan.

Except me.

Good done, well job!

 

PS: But I knew he bought the ring thanks to his brother…