A Blessed Marriage To Sherry!

The past weekend had been an exhausting one. It really drained out most of my energy! I guess my age ain’t able to catch up with my crazily hectic lifestyle...

However, I had witnessed a beautiful marriage. I had attended a few marriages, to be one of the bridesmaids, but this was really different!

I was asked to be the Maid of Honor and I witnessed something that I had never ever witnessed in my life before!

As the bridesmaids were downstairs giving challenges and games to the Groom and his butlers, I was upstairs with the Bride and her parents.

The moment of her parents covering her with the wedding veil was really touching. My heart twitched and tears were pooling in my eyes

Tears streamed down the Bride’s face and I could see her parents were holding up their tears too.

It really made me think that being born a female is like a punishment. You have to leave your beautiful family to be with a family that was never part of your life. The new family will never love you the way your own family do.

It is really sad if you think about it...

Therefore, I really hope men out there will not only love their wives truthfully but also to treat them right.

Chapter 3 (Part III): How Men and Women Found Peace

Men and Women will only be able to live together in peace if they are able to respect their differences.

Men learned to respect that Women needed to talk to feel better even if they do not have much to say because by listening, they could be very supportive.

Men realised that even when they felt they were being attacked, blamed or criticised by the Women, they knew it was only temporary. Soon the Women would suddenly feel better and be very appreciative and accepting.

Each Man finally understood that a Woman’s need to talk about her problems was not because he was failing her in some way. He learned that once a Woman feels heard, she stops dwelling on her problems and becomes very positive.

With such awareness, a Man will be able to listen without feeling responsible for solving all her problems. Also, as a man gets good at listening, he realises that listening can be an excellent way to forget the problems of his day as well as bring a lot of fulfillment to his partner.

Women learned to respect that Men needed to withdraw to cope with stress. The cave is no longer a great mystery or cause for alarm.

They learned to be more accepting of him at these times because he was experiencing a lot of stress.

They are not offended when Men are easily distracted. When a Woman talked and her Man became distracted, she would very politely stop talking, stand there and wait for him to notice. Then she would begin talking again. She understood that sometimes it was hard for him to give his full attention. They discovered that by asking for the Men’s attention in a relaxed and accepting manner, Men are happy to redirect their attention.

However, when Men were completely preoccupied and in their caves, Women also will not take it personally. They know that it is not the time to have intimate conversations but a time to talk about problems with their own friends or have fun and go shopping. When Men thereby felt loved and accepted, Women will discover that Men would come out of their caves quicker.

To know how men cope with stress, check out the post here.

To know how women cope with stress, check out the post here.

 

Extracted from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Do Not Talk Bad About Your Boyfriend Or Husband To Anyone Ever!

If you asked me what is the one thing I learnt the most from my previous relationship, I would say..

‘Don’t talk bad about your boyfriend/husband to anyone ever’

My older brother told me this YEARS ago.

He said the relationship he has with his girlfriend can maintain up until now is because they always talk good things about each other in front of their own respective friends.

We may be venting but our friends or others do not forgive and forget the things you say about your boyfriend or husband.

Why?

They do not love him like you do.

Generally the only way people know your boyfriend or husband is through you.

Build him up.

Always.