Crazy Christmas 2013!

How did I celebrate Christmas Eve? Well, every year had always been different for me and this year’s was no different either.

Since I had joined Toastmaster, I had a few Christmas celebrations in different clubs, namely Bagan Ajam TMC and Dell Dynamics TMC.

I booked a hotel room on island to celebrate the Christmas Eve. The room was really big and I had the jacuzzi bathtub all to myself! Not only that, I went for a spa as well. The massage was not any good but, I did pamper myself to the max!

After I had done pampering myself, a close friend of mine called me up to join him and his friends for Christmas countdown at Gurney Drive. Without hesitating, I decided to join them and guess what? It was really crowded!

All of us played with snow spray and trust me, it was really fun! I had only watched people playing around with it but I had never tried it myself so, this year I took another step and bought three cans and attacked my friend.

On Christmas Day itself, I attended a wedding luncheon of one of my best friends in Penang. I am truly happy for her – to have found her happiness and a man who really loves her. Congratulations and looking forward to the arrival of your little one.

I continued the day with meeting up with my close friend again to join his friends for bowling. While they were playing, I went to a hair salon to wash my hair, knowing that I would be outside the whole day and would not have the chance to take my shower. We had our dinner at a restaurant near to jetty later that night.

As we were eating, we were suggesting a place to go after-dinner. We decided to look for a café that provides board games for their customers to play. That was when we came across Funbox and trust me, we really had a good time there.

I am really glad that I enjoyed my Christmas Eve and Christmas Day to the fullest, thanks to this close friend of mine. Without him, I guess I would be spending my Christmas with mundane activities followed by mundane mood.

You Will Be Greatly Missed But Never Forgotten

This morning I received a message from a friend whom I have not talked to for a very long time. We met in Shanghai and everyone is busy with their own lives after each of us left this amazing place.

He told me that he must have had sent to the wrong email address of mine and hence, decided to drop me a message in Gtalk with the link he wanted to show to me.

Initially I thought his account was hacked and the hacker may have sent all those dangerous link in my friend's contact list. Therefore, I ignored the link and deleted the messages.

It was until I checked my mailbox at work in the afternoon, I saw his mail. I opened it and it was the same link. The title of the mail concerned me a lot and therefore I decided to click the link he shared.

I read the title of the news and it did not bother me much until I read the content and came upon the familiar name. I was dumbfounded and my mind just went blank at that moment. I was speechless.

Ying left the world just like that. The cause of her death remains unknown. The officers are still investigating and of course, the whole world is trying to find out what had happened to her.

I knew Ying in Shanghai. Similarly to my case, we were both Exchange Participants under AIESEC to do our management traineeship in Shanghai. She arrived Shanghai two months later after Szu and I started our internships. She faced a lot of difficulties to have her Visa done but she did not give up. She was very determined and did not lose hope.

Ying was born in Malaysia but grew up in New Zealand. She was like the big sister in our group. A very ambitious, energetic and strong young lady. I remember she landed Shanghai on the night of Halloween. Instead of taking her rest, she changed into her costume and joined us at the Halloween Party! Now that showed how crazy and energetic this young lady was! 

Her giggles were what made her stood out the most and trust me, she had a really loud voice. Thanks to that we never failed to have crazy and fun moments in Shanghai.

Now that she is gone, I am sure her friends and family will take a long time to get over this big loss. May she rest in peace and dear Lord, bless her family and friends so they will stay strong. 

Overcoming A Breakup!

Lately, either I met ladies who are heart broken or they came to me by their own will. I am neither a love guru nor mending-up-broken-hearts expert.

It is because of one simple reason – I had been there. Therefore, I understand very well on what they are going through and the pain they have to endure.

If you had been following my blog closely, you should know - I was depressed, hurt and torn apart. It was neither my first nor true love but no matter how you look at it, getting over the pain never seems to get easier.

However, if you had always been by my side, you could have seen very clearly on how this cheerful and happy dopey young lady became really depressed and weak but managed to get back up up until today. You are the ones who had seen the most of me compared to other people and I am pretty sure you are proud to see I made it through the storm.

Why am I here? I just thought I should share with you on how I managed to get over my breakup. Disclaimer: Below are just my personal experiences so, I am not holding any responsibility with whatever you are doing next.

First of all, ladies, always remember that it is not wrong for you to be emotional. Let it all out! That includes cry, yell and scream. Just do whatever it takes to let it all out. Partying, drinking and finding some new guys will not help. The blow will return unless you take the time to let it out. Do not rush yourself to move on as well. Take your time. Just do not try to get back with him which leads to my next point.

The attempts of getting him back will not only hurt you but will make him lose his respect to you completely. Remember that if a man can move on easily and doing really well after the breakup, it can only means that he had been thinking to break off the relationship for a period of time! Therefore, do not waste your time trying to patch things up with him. I know it is not going to be easy. I had been there, alright? However, it hurts you even more so, why do you want to do that?

It then leads to my third point – block him out of your life! Stop contacting him or texting him. Do whatever it takes to make yourself not able to keep in touch with him – block him in Facebook, delete all the pictures of him and even delete his number! Okay, I know deleting number is useless because you probably remember his number but what the hell? So long you still see him in your contact list, you will never stopped contacting him at all! Another way is to focus your mind on other things which leads to the next point.

Spend time with your friends, exercise, get more involved into your work or probably some volunteer works. In my case, I spent time with my friends (and we are really close compared to before) and also I got more involved into my work. Some people keep him off their minds by socialising and making new friends. For me, I was not able to do it because I do not want to send out negative signals to newly made friends. I waited until I was fully recovered and ready only, I started to socialise and make new friends – I recently joined Toastmasters Club.

Nevertheless, we are still human. The thought of him will immediately haunt you inside your head and you will start to think about what it happened, how it could have been different and what you could have done in order for things to take a different course. Try to think about it. We are unable to go back in time and change anything. There is no portal or machine for us to go back and change the history. You will just be torturing yourself for no reason so, stop dwelling and move forward. I know it is not easy because I had been there. Since I made it through, why can’t you? It will definitely take time which leads us to the next and final point.

Time really heals everything. Trust me, it does. Do not ever rush yourself. Heal your wounds in a comfortable pace but do not ever try to look back. Taking the first step is always the hardest but once you managed to do it, the rest of the journey ain't that difficult. However, you must not stop and turn back because you can only move forward and not backward. Of course, if you are tired, you can take a rest for a while but continue to move forward after.

It was never easy for me as well but it does not mean that you will not be able to make it. You are not the only one. I had been there and managed to make it through the storm. I was able to do it and thus, it is important to understand that soon, you will, too!