Makan-Makan di Melaka: Day 3

It was our very last day in Malacca and we were hoping to make the best out of it. We had Taiwan Beef Noodle at this Taiwan Mee Shop along Jalan Gajah Berang. We had a few dishes that morning: pork leg, beef noodles as well as pork noodles. They are must-try dishes.

Next, we headed to Jeta Groves Melaka Nyonya Delights for its famous Durian Chendol and trust me, this is so much better than the one you found on Jonker Street.

We ordered Mee Siam too, just for a try of it but, it was too spicy for me. I believe most of you could take up spicy food so, this dish will be a piece of cake for you. Still, the focus is definitely the durian chendol. It follows durian season though so, if you want to have it, you better head to Malacca fast before durians are out!

Of course you should not forget about bringing back something from Malacca home: pineapple tarts. My favourite and specially from Madam Goh. I had eaten those non-Madam-Goh pineapple tarts and seriously, they cannot be matched. It seems you had to place an order one day in advance to get a bigger container of pineapple tarts. Else, you could only get a smaller one which is definitely not enough.

Now that marked the end of my Malacca re-visit, what’s next? Ipoh!

How to Communicate in a Relationship

The absence of talks is the main reason behind failing relationships. Nevertheless, this is not incurable and can be healed by effective communication. Communication is a bridge that connects two people and most of the times, it is the unspoken words that make a difference and not the ones that you managed to voice out. We are talking about the body language here, in particular, your body and your eyes will give our vibes to people around you and they manifest you actual feelings. Your body does the talking most of the times; you need not say things to your partner.

Unfortunately, our body may malfunctions and gives out vibes that we never intended to send. For instance, your body, when tired, may give our cold vibes to your partner; much against your personal wish. This justifies the need for a healthy and spoken dialogue. A bit of conscious effort and some effectual communication strategies and your relationship could be back on track.

There are a few tips on how to communicate effectively for maintaining healthy relationships.

Listen

Communication is not just talking. We all know that but, we conveniently choose to forget. In a relationship, you must not take any chance; listen to your partner and know what his or her sufferings are. Maybe it is all in the head and you can talk things out. But maybe, your attitude is the cause of issues which you will have a lot more things to sort out. If that is the case, the more reason for you listen as listening is definitely is a good start.

Appreciate

We get into relationships with wonderful people but, with the passage of time, we just forget how wonderful they are. Their niceness becomes mundane for us and consequently, appreciated becomes a rarity. That is another root cause of decay in relationships. The attitude of taking things for granted creeps into a relationship and kills it from within. To maintain the beauty of any relationship, do not be lazy. Know that the magic once created needs to be maintained and polished, time and again. To do this, all you need to do is to shower your beloved with appreciation. A simple word of praise and gratitude can wash away a million of misgivings.

Face It

Before things go out of control, take matters in your hand and talk to your partner. Do not just sit on your hands and do nothing. Yes, time heals but, it cannot possibly have the same effect all the time. It might just complicate life further for both of you. The last thing your relationship deserves is your neglected and ignored looks!

Interact

Talking it out is not enough. You must interact with your partner on a regular basis. However, you need to realise that talking should not come out as a duty. There should be a natural urge or drive to talk your heart out to your partner. Remember that there was a time when that person was our oxygen and blood; survival without talking to them was impossible. Interacting naturally is the best step to relive those moments and figure out what has changed.

Compromise

Get this fact straight – this is not a war and you are not foes. Compromising on some simple things would not make you weaker or less stronger by any chance. People who say that maintaining your individuality, despite being with someone else, miss out on one key fact of life – in a relationship, two is actually one. You do not grow along side each other in your separate worlds, rather you grow together. Compromise is not a sign of defeat – it is a sign of maturity and mental growth.

Seek Professional Help

Ego hurts and if you let it get into a relationship then it hurts even more. After you have tried almost every imaginable thing to make your relation work and still, the spark has not re-ignited, then you must not shy away from the idea of seeking professional help. And please, professional means professionals – do not get your family or friends involved which will bring more harm than good.

Never Give Up

Keep in mind that you are with a person you liked the most at one point in life. That person is still there under the new demeanor – it is only the situations that have changed. Do not make rash choices or decisions just because things have been rocky for sometime. Every relationship goes through the tough phase but, you need to keep your faith intact and try hardest to make that beautiful chemistry work all over again!

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Makan-Makan di Melaka: Day 2

We started our second day in the afternoon at Donald & Lily’s for nyonya cuisine. I had been craving for pongteh chicken for a period of time and I have not had enough of it yet. We had nyonya laksa as well as their cendol.

Next, we headed to Nadeje Patisserie for their famous mille crepe. It was not my first time to try out mille crepe; I fell in love with it the first time I tried it when a friend of mine bought a few slices back from Malacca. Then, it was his birthday when a friend of mine in Penang told me about this site, Humble Beginnings, where they take orders in for mille crepe.

Unfortunately, they do not offer Tiramisu flavour but Nadeje has it – and that was why we were heading there for a taste of it. Luck was not on our side. It was sold out, what a bugger.

After our tea break, we headed back to the hotel for a short break before we continued our food hunt at night. A local friend of mine hosted us that night and I had told him how much I wanted to go to the back alley stall. I had always wanted to go and had been telling my boyfie about it all the time when I talked about Malacca. Luck was not on our side again as it did not open for business that night due to family matters.

However, that did not spoil our night. My friend brought us to The Portugese Village to have great seafood at 7 Pescados Fishermen. Patience is a virtue, people. We waited for almost two hours for our food and trust me, it was worth the wait. The crabs were my favourite and the prawns though a little spicy, it was good too. After we were stuffed, we had a mango-ish mango juice at Joe’s Only One Mango Juice. Why did I call it ‘mango-ish’? Go and have a sip of it and you will understand. This stall is located at the same place as those seafood restaurants so, you will be able to find it.

No, it was not the end of the second day yet. We went for a second round that night; headed to Merlimau. I had never tried the famous Portugese grilled fish though it was my fourth visit in Malacca. We had those three dishes shown above at Medan Ikan Bakar Alai. I enjoyed sweet and sour ‘bamboos’ and prawns more than the fish. Well, I personally do not like to eat fish but it was not that bad. At least I got to get a taste of it.

..to be continued